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Stress can have a big effect on you. It can greatly affect your confidence body function as well as your mind and spirit. This is especially true if you ignore the warning signs. Even if you ignore your feelings, you should notice the effects on your physical and mental state. You need to learn how to pay attention to the signs of stress. Even if you only notice that you are not feeling very confident, this is still a warning sign, and you need to take care of your body, your mind and spirit.

Watch Out For The Danger Signs

Of course, a small amount of stress is fine – even necessary – yet modern life can give you too much stress over long periods. If you do not get relief from stress, it can make you physically and mentally ill. Stress will often starts in your mind before long before you notice any physical symptoms. Remember that your mind, body and spirit are linked and if one is affected, there will be some effect on the others also. If you have a stress-free mind, the chances are you will have an active and healthy body, but if your mind is full of problems and negativity it will surely result in deteriorating health.

All sports men and women know that the purpose of training, or exercise, is to stress to body so that it becomes stronger as it repairs during the recovery period. But if the stress-level is too high, or if the recovery period is too short or non-existent, the body begins to break down because it is unable to adapt. Therefore it is very important to watch out for signs that your body is nearing the limits of its tolerance to physical stress. Similarly, you may feel some minor aches and pains in various parts of your body when your mind is getting over-stressed without respite or without enough sleep for you to recover. If allowed to continue, it could result in sleeping and behavioural problems, breathlessness, etc. Stress also increases inflammation all through the body, which is likely to increase cholesterol deposits in the arteries and that can lead to heart disease, stroke or even dementia.

Mentally Cope With Stress

The first signs of stress normally show in the mind. As stress progresses, you will start to notice it in your emotional state and then your physical state. So it is very important that you learn how to stay calm when under stress and to focus your thoughts. Keep your thoughts positive and focussed on relaxation and on your goals, or where you are going, rather than on the current situation.

If you are not used to doing this, it might take some effort to begin with, but there are some techniques you can use to make it easier as you learn. Raise your spirits by listening to your favourite music and perhaps singing along with the lyrics. Alternatively, hum the tune to yourself to divert your attention away from your problems. The world won’t end if you fail to do some particular task or meet some arbitrary deadline, so make certain to get some ‘me time’ when you can.

Breathing Exercise

Another method is to focus on your breathing. When we are stressed, we will often hyperventilate or breathe quickly, so breathing exercises will normally help. Start by breathing as you would if you were relaxed. That might sound strange, but it works. You could also try breathing in and out in specific intervals. For example, you might start by breathing in to a count of five, hold your breathe to a count of three, breathe out to a count of seven, hold your breathe to a count of three and start again. This might sound complicated, but the simple rule is to always count with odd numbers, hold your breath for less time than you took to breath in and take longer to breathe out than you took to breathe in. If you get out of breath, either adjust the count or count more quickly. It might take a little practice to do it consistently. This breathing exercise will ensure that your mind and body get enough oxygen to function properly.

Eat The Right Food To Fight Stress

It is essential that your body gets enough of the right nutrients for it to function properly and this will also help you to cope mentally and physically. Try to focus on eating a healthy diet of fruits and vegetables and, as far as possible, stay away from processed foods. Healthy foods can help you to deal with stress. Feeling healthy will help with your confidence body, mind and spirit.

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This is a very long newsletter this week. I wanted to keep it shorter than this, but as I included more good information for you, it seemed to grow and grow. I’ll make it shorter next week to compensate.

In the newsletter this week:

• D Murali reviews a book for us, ‘Fifteen Mantras for the Empowered Woman’ by Abha Sharma Rodrigues
• Rodrick Cooke gives us Ten Tips To Increase Your Self Confidence
• Dante Byrd tells us How To Let Your Own Self Esteem Shine

So let’s move right on to the first article:

Power of the inner voice

by D. Murali from ‘The Hindu’

The ‘spoken word’ is the focus of one of the chapters in ‘Fifteen Mantras for the Empowered Woman’ by Abha Sharma Rodrigues (www.landmarkonthenet.com). It is about ‘an invisible friend, who goes around with you every day of your life, constantly whispering comments in your ear,’ as the author begins.This invisible friend is no alien to us; and the ?spoken word? is our own inner voice, the self-talk, she adds.

Self-talk, explains Rodrigues, is the dialogue that goes on in our heads all the time. ‘It can best be compared to a commentary that instructs us, and gives us its feedback on virtually everything. It never lets go of anything without some remark, observation or evaluation.’

While much of this self-talk is harmless and serves to complete our daily activities, it can directly or indirectly determine our motivation levels, influence our health, affect our well-being, create our thoughts, and impact every emotion that we experience, cautions the author.

“Depending upon how it is directed, it can make or mar us. It can boost our confidence or destroy it. It can push us up or pull us down? Quite unconsciously, our inner voice replaces every single person who has authority over us.”

The amazing thing, says Rodrigues, is that once we decide to take action, it is possible to replace our self-talk. “At any stage of our lives, we can direct our minds? As adults, we can choose to instruct ourselves”.

Begin with awareness

How is redirection done? By beginning with awareness, the author guides. The first step is to become aware of the inner dialogue within ourselves by keeping a constant vigil, and identifying when the mind shows up. “It is worthwhile not to respond to this inner voice, but to listen to it from a distance and to notice whether it appears as a thought, an opinion, an individual view, a command or a reality.”

The next step, she says, is to create objectivity by putting in place a distance between our observing self and our inner thoughts, because the gap helps in deciphering the precise association our mind has made with people, things, and situations. We may then discover that our response towards an event or person is our individual, subjective way of thinking, rather than one based on objective reality. “We will also realise that this opinion can be changed, that is, if we are in control.”

Finally, choose to do something different, exhorts Rodrigues. This is especially important, when the advice is adverse. The antidote, as she counsels, is to “introduce positive thoughts that will lift us, increase our self-esteem, happiness levels, aspirations, goals and desires.”

What is empowerment?

Empowerment is all about breaking free from limiting beliefs that have diminished your spirit, the author concludes. When such beliefs are replaced with a constructive approach, the gain is in the form of “free-flowing positive energies,” which in turn “help you to increase your courage, renew your self-esteem, create balance, and give you enhanced capacity for forgiving and taking appropriate action.”

In the process, as Rodrigues reassures, the mind becomes more receptive, your speech reflects concreteness of thought and you take better control over situations. She avers that an empowered woman is a secure woman; secure in one?s own skills, talents and abilities. “Only a secure person can give security to others, place higher trust in the capacity and competence of others and inspire them to reach their best selves.”

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Increasing Your Self Confidence

With These Ten Tips

by Rodrick Cooke

Self-confidence is an important key to success in any walk of life. People with self-confidence are noticed more. They achieve their goals relatively easily. In contrast, people who lack self-confidence often end up being losers. You too need to build your self-confidence if you want to do well in life. Here are ten tips that can help you build that elusive self-confidence:

1. Self-confidence is found in people who have a healthy self-esteem. They know their personal worth, and act accordingly. A good way to improve your personal worth is to make a list of your accomplishments every day. You will be surprised to know how many positive acts you perform every day in life, but which you don’t notice. Once you start looking at this list, your self-confidence will boom.

2. Be clear about your goals. If need be, break your goals into smaller, more manageable tasks. Pat yourself every time you achieve a minor goal. It will boost you’re a self-confidence, and help you achieve bigger goals.

3. Find a mentor who can help you reach your goal. Most people, who have done well in life, have a mentor who has traveled the same road on which they are traveling today. Meet your mentor regularly, and seek his advice and support as a routine. You will find that you are learning something valuable every day.

4. Socialize with people who are positive and supportive, who like and respect you. Give them the same support and respect that they give you. Avoid people who are negative and critical of you. Such people erode your self-confidence. They make you look at your negative self, and not your positive self. After some time, you get enveloped in their cynical and negative world-view. Nothing can be more damaging than that. Dump such friends as soon as you can.

5. Pay attention to how you look. Take pleasure in wearing good clothes and being well groomed. It makes you feel good. People too look at you differently. Remember that every human being wants to be found in the company of smart, intelligent, successful people. You can soon be a centre of attraction if you radiate a positive, smart look. It can very easily make the difference between success and failure.

6. Don’t be afraid of failures. Take them in your stride and move on. Say to yourself that you will succeed the next time. Never make the mistake of allowing your failures to overwhelm you. They will force you into a shell, and destroy your self-confidence. A better way is to shrug your failures as something inconsequential, and take on a new challenge. Of course, you must learn from your mistakes, and be realistic about your abilities. People who try to over-reach often fall down. You should not allow that to happen in the name of self-confidence.

7. Keep yourself fit by exercising regularly and controlling your diet. A fit and healthy person is much more active and achieves more in his career. Physical fitness, like self-confidence, glows on your face.

8. Have a wide range of interests, and take an active interest in what’s going on in the world. Meet and talk to a lot of people. Don’t focus all your attention only on your work and on your problems. Divert your attention to new interests, and new tasks. This will keep your mind happily occupied, and boost your self-confidence.

9. Take part in activities that you are good at. You may have excelled at things in the past and then given them up due to lack of time. Return to those activities again and see your self-confidence grow.

10. Pick up a new hobby or craft that interests you. It will keep you occupied. It will also increase your self-confidence as you become more skilled in it.

Try to practice these tips as faithfully as you can, and see the difference in your life.

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Thank you Rodrick. I know that those tips will help many people to increase their confidence.

I have not covered spirituality in my newsletter before and I thinks that’s a mistake. I know that not everybody believes, or wants to believe in God, yet many would think that this is too important an area to ignore. So this week I have redressed the balance with Dante Byrd’s spiritual perspective on self-esteem:

How To Let Your Own

Self Esteem Shine

by Dante Byrd

This week something interesting happened to me. I made a gift for someone, and they absolutely loved it. As they exclaimed over it and admired it, they asked if it had taken me long to make. I shrugged and said, “Just a few hours” – when in fact I spent more than 30 hours working on it. I poured alot of heart and soul into it. Why then, did I diminish it? Why did I feel the need to fib about how much effort I had put into that gift?

I must admit, I had to give that question some long, hard thought. What I realized is that I am still following the pattern that has dominated much of my life. I’m hiding my Light. You know that song, “This Little Light of Mine, I’m Gonna Let It Shine?” How many of us are afraid to let our “lights” shine? How many of us hold back a large part of ourselves?

Maybe we are afraid of being braggarts. Nobody likes a boastful, prideful person. From a young age, our parents teach us modesty and humility, which is not a bad thing in itself. But where do we draw the line? Are we not allowed to take pride in our own accomplishments at all?

There is a very big difference between sharing our gifts with the world, and showing off. When I look back across my life, I see a classic underachiever. Not because I wasn’t capable of achieving anything, but because I was ashamed and embarrassed by my own abilities and strengths. I denied them and hid them at every available opportunity. If I shared those gifts with the world, it would call attention to me, attention I didn’t feel worthy of accepting. Perhaps I was also afraid of ridicule. If I shared my heart and soul with the world, would I be laughed at or made fun of? Nothing could shoot my confidence down more quickly than rejection. Maybe you’ve had the same experiences? Have you had feelings of hesitancy about sharing your gifts? Have you been hiding your light, holding back an essential part of yourself?

How dare we hide our Lights? They are not ours to hide. They were given to us by a loving God of Light – the same light that shines within us. Each of us has a little spark of the Divine within. By denying that part of ourselves, we also deny God within us! We have a responsibility to share ourselves with the world; not in a way that proclaims us to be better than anyone else, but in a way that uplifts and enriches others. We owe it to ourselves, we owe it to the world, and we owe it to God, the one who gave us these gifts and abilities to begin with. What good is a gift that doesn’t get used? Imagine a flower being afraid to bloom, rain being afraid to fall, the sun being afraid to shine. We need to shift our perspective and realize that by hiding our lights, we are not serving anyone. Love, unexpressed, is not love at all.

So many of us think that we have nothing to share. We spend most of our days feeling like an empty shell. However, nothing is truly ever empty. Nature abhors a vacuum. Ah, remember that, from Science class? Though you may feel empty, there is something inside of you. It may be chaos or joy, optimism or pessimism, hope or doubt – but something is there. If you don’t like what it is, you have the ability to change it by the power of your thoughts.

Know that you do have something to share with the world. If you will dare to reach down inside your soul and feel around a bit, you will find a long forgotten dream. A sense of excitement that you once had, a knowingness that you could change the world and make it just a little bit brighter. Reclaim that dream. It never really left you, it just got covered with a little dust. Clean it off and set it upon your mantle of hope. Infuse it with new life, and allow it to come into Being.

Remember that you are the only one holding yourself back.

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Indeed we do all have something to share. My own reasons for writing this newsletter an in providing you with regular helpful articles (I hope) is to share my knowledge and experience with you and hopefully to help you along the way to deal with life’s problems. I really want to help you in any way I can and that is why I regularly ask for feedback about the kind of article you would like or information you would like in this newsletter.

The simplest way for you to leave feedback is to go to my blog and leave a comment. You can do that at:

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Near the top of the page you will see the words, “How are we doing?” click on “Leave your comment” and tell me about your biggest life challenge. If there was one thing that would turn your life around, what would it be? I will do my best to help you in this newsletter or in my blog.

As ever, I hope you really found this useful.

To your success,

Bill Webb

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In many ways, home education and self esteem can go together to help either a shy child, or one with Special Educational Needs, to be more confident, which will be very beneficial to them, both emotionally and intellectually.

Although children need to learn how to socialize to learn ‘normal’ behaviour from their peers, simply thrusting them into the crowded hallways and perhaps classrooms of a typical school can be quite overwhelming for them. It is possible that they could end up having social anxiety attacks, which is likely to be very counter-productive. With the help of home education, your child can feel more comfortable and confident in the presence of other children if you let them learn social skills at their own pace.

Learning to Socialize

The biggest concern of most parents who want to home educate their children is that they won’t have the opportunity to socialize and so learn how to behave. Nevertheless, most parents don’t realise that sending their children to school is not the only way that their child can learn how to socialize. Furthermore, it is not necessarily the best way to learn social skills either.

It may be true that a shy child, or one with Special Educational Needs, will probably have difficulty fitting in to a classroom environment, especially if the other children are rather noisy or boisterous. Yet those children are usually quiet, nervous or inept in a social environment, which makes it difficult for them to make friends in a classroom environment and they will probably end up feeling more alone and lacking in confidence. Apart from that, these children usually end up being bullied because they are the easy targets of those who like to pick on others.

Problems At School

These are just some of the issues that children who are shy, or those with Special Educational Needs can experience in a classroom environment and this is often the start of their problems. On the other hand, if they are educated at home, they can learn to socialize at their own pace, develop self-esteem and gain confidence without being victims of bullying and name-calling from other children. Hence, there is less reason to be concerned about home education and self esteem issues than you might have thought.

Attempting to learn in a stressful environment is extremely difficult, for adults and for children, and if your child is feeling stressed or anxious thinking about the likelihood of being bullied during the break, or at other times, then they are not likely to be able to concentrate properly during the lessons. They won’t participate in the lessons and probably not asking questions of their teachers either because they won’t want to draw attention to themselves. And if they are in a big class, the teacher may not even notice them. By being taught at home. your child is can learn in a comfortable and nurturing environment.

It’s Time To Start Home Education

Shy children need a lot of encouragement to conquer their shyness and if they get stressed out it will not help them. Children with Special Educational needs may have great difficulty in socialising and being stressed will probably make it impossible for them. You need to find the right balance for your child. If your child is uncomfortable in a large crowd but thrives with one-on-one, you can play with them on their own to begin with and gradually invite other to help them to build their confidence.

One of the other things you can do when you are home educating your child is to take them to group classes like music, art or hobby classes where they can make friends with other children of the same age or interests. These groups will help them to build confidence and self-esteem and help them to learn as well. Thus it is very likely that home education and self esteem building will be even more effective than normal schooling.

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Do You Need Self-esteem?

This question is an interesting one because it assumes that we might not have self-esteem or that we can manage without it. In reality, this is impossible because self-esteem is a measure of the value (esteem, respect, appreciation) that you have for yourself. It is a personal measure of self worth. You could also call it self-respect, regard for yourself, or perhaps how much you like or honour yourself. Note that it is not the value that others place on you – it’s not what others think you are worth, it is what you think you are worth. The more you esteem yourself – the greater your self-esteem – the better you feel and the more confident you are.

People with high self-esteem are more assertive, more relaxed and at peace with themselves. They generally live balanced lives and will normally seek self-improvement.

Generally speaking, they are independent thinkers and their outlook will quite often affect the people they meet in a positive way. So the question is not, do you need self esteem, but how can you raise your self-esteem and keep it high.

Be Optimistic

It is very important to be optimistic in your outlook, since this keeps you in a positive state or mindset. On occasions when things do not work out the way you wanted them to, instead of being miserable and complaining, stop for a minute and think about how to make the most of the current situation.

Know Yourself

It helps to know yourself well and to understand your strengths and your weaknesses. Just because you need esteem to be high rather than low, it does not mean that when you raise your self esteem you will nevertheless need help from other people. Sometimes you will need all the encouragement that you can get – especially if you are feeling down or rather blue.

Know Your Fears

Know what you are afraid of and admit it to yourself. Do not hide your fears away because if you do, you can never conquer them. If you refuse to even think about things that make you feel afraid, those fears will affect you ten or a hundred times more than they will if you face them. By not facing them, you make them much worse. As you learn to confront your fears, you will gradually start to wonder what all the fuss was about this will help you to overcome adversities and make you feel more confident.

Be Assertive

As you start to realise your value, you will start to realise that your opinion has value also. And as you start to value your opinion, you will become more assertive because you are not afraid to state your opinion. If you simply start to be more assertive, this alone will develop self-esteem just as building self esteem will automatically build assertiveness. There are always situations where it is necessary to speak your mind or where you need to say no. In these situations, be proud of your decision and stay with it. Be quick to make up your mind and slow to change it.

Take Good Care Of Yourself

Look after your mind and your body. Eat a healthy and moderate diet, drink plenty of water to keep yourself hydrated (drink before you feel thirsty) and get enough exercise. All of these things will affect the way you feel and the amount of energy you have. Treat self-development as an on-going measure. Get self-help books and take care of spiritual and physical development and even your attractiveness. Take nothing to either extreme and be moderate in all things.

Set Goals

Self-esteem will most likely also result from self-satisfaction and self-confidence. Set expectations for yourself; set goals in line with your ambitions and desires because that will motivate you. Make certain that the goals you set are relatively easy (but not too easy), so that you can constantly achieve them. By doing this, you will make much more progress than by setting hugely challenging goals that cause you to lose heart and give up. Set goals that you know you can achieve and move towards greater success.

Compliment Yourself

Remember to remind yourself how well you are doing and always look for your successes, no matter how small. Accept compliments from others and remember thank them because this will encourage them to do so again. Tell yourself that you have done the right thing and it will work out for the best. No matter how much you think that you might have made a ‘wrong’ decision, there is no way to check the outcome of a different one. Most decisions are based upon a consideration of what you know and so more likely to be right than wrong.

Sleep Well

Before you go to bed, be careful not to overeat, watch the news or a violent movie. Get enough sleep and sleep well, so that you start the day refreshed and the best you can.

Have Fun

It’s not just children who need to have fun. Let your hair down once in a while and laugh as often as you can because this will keep you in a positive mood throughout the day. It will also help you to maintain a positive outlook and motivate you to aim for success and continuous development. Having fun will also help to strengthen your immune system and keep you healthy. Having a laugh will release pent-up negative emotions and make you feel better.

Accept Things As They Are

Accept that things are perfect as they are – even you. Do not think that anything you have done is less than perfect. It might not yet be complete, but that is not the same thing. Constantly striving for ‘perfection’ is normally very destructive because it goes along with a belief that whatever you do is not good enough and this leads to depression and low self-esteem. Certainly always do a good job and do the best you can, but remember that your best will always come with enjoyment. If you stop enjoying it, stop doing it. And especially, never ask perfection of others because then you will ask the impossible of them and they will think poorly of you for it. Ask only that they do their best and thank them for what they do. Do that and they will work harder and do their best for you.

Surround Yourself With Positive

People

Stay away from negative people or those who constantly criticise what you do or say. They will pull you down and attempt to make you conform to their standards of behaviour rather than your own. Wherever possible, be with positive people because they will support you, encourage you and challenge you to do well. They will keep you motivated and feeling good.

Understand that the need for self esteem is crucial. Understand that you need to raise your self esteem to help you to be everything that deep-down you know you are.

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