www.vermontchildrenshospital.org–Pediatrician Lewis First, MD from Vermont Children’s Hospital at Fletcher Allen talks about your child’s self-esteem. Learn how healthy self-esteem can be a child’s armor against the challenges of the world.
Expand the description and view the text of the steps for this how-to video. Check out Howcast for other do-it-yourself videos from kevinveselka and more videos in the General Mental Health category. You can contribute too! Create your own DIY guide at www.howcast.com or produce your own Howcast spots with the Howcast Filmmakers Program at www.howcast.com Shameless flattery isn’t the only way to boost someone’s self-image. To complete this How-To you will need: Time to spend with the person Patience to encourage life changes And the wisdom to compliment wisely A dog Step 1: Encourage exercise Lure the person off the couch. Studies show that exercise raises confidence, so you’ll both get a self-esteem boost. Tip: Strength training, in particular, has been shown to make people feel better about themselves. Step 2: Get him a pet Get him a puppy—particularly if the person who needs to feel better about himself is a child or a senior citizen. Research shows that both groups benefit greatly from dogs’ legendary unconditional love. Step 3: Encourage him to volunteer Encourage the person to become a volunteer. They’ll feel good for helping, and it’ll remind them of how fortunate they are. Step 4: Encourage writing Urge the person to pen a poem. Writing verse has been shown to raise self-esteem by producing endorphins, the so-called “feel good” chemicals produced by the brain. Step 5: Compliment him Use praise wisely. Research shows it’s better to compliment a person for working …
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NO COPYRIGHT INTENDED!!! New song by Fall Out Boy from their album Folie A Deux out December 16, 2008! GUEST STARS: -Headfirst Slide… by Elvis Costello -Sugar, We’re Going Down by Travis McCoy -Grand Theft Autumn by Gabe Saporta -Growing Up by William Beckett -Dance Dance by Brendon Urie -This Ain’t A Scene… by Doug Neuman -Thanks For The Memories by Alex Deleon LYRICS:* I’ve got troubled thoughts and the self esteem to match What a catch, what a catch woah-oh You’ll never catch us so just let me be instead I’ll be fine ’til the hospital or american embassy Miss Flack said I still want you back Miss Flack said I still want you back I’ve got troubled thoughts and the self esteem to match What a catch, what a catch And all I can think of is the way I’m the one who charmed The one who gave up on you Who gave up on you They say the captian goes down with the ship So when the world ends will God go down with it Miss Flack said I still want you back Miss Flack said I still want you back I’ve got troubled thoughts and the self esteem to match What a catch, what a catch And all I can think of is the way I’m the one who charmed The one who gave up on you Who gave up on you Na na nanana Na na nanana Na na nanana Na na nanana What a catch, what a catch What a catch, what a catch (Elvis Costello:) I will never end up like him behind my back I already am, keep a calendar this way you will always know. I’ve got troubled thoughts and the self esteem to match What a catch, what a …
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Self Esteem by Paul Collier (C) 2010 All rights reserved visit me at www.PaulFromStokeUK.com I am the composer and performer of this music, I hope you enjoy it. I really want you to read the messages in the video. even more I really want you to accept them for you to believe them For you to be them! I have learnt over the years, and the hard way, that one person is everyone, what I mean is, you are capable of being the most kind considerate person or the most angriest disturbed person. and anywhere in between those 2 examples. The change that can occur in your life can give you a life you never dreampt was possible. It can change the person who hates himself into someone who at first accepts himself, then likes himself, then loves himself. Is it wrong to love yourself? I was taught that I shouldnt love myself, and that anything good that came “from” me was not really me, but God manifesting himself through me. Unfortunatly though, if I was naughty whilst growing up, I was scolded! so that left me unable to accept myself, not like myself, definatly not love myself without any way of winning. But I changed. How? I decided to change! I know for a fact that someone who is at the extreme lows, who’s thoughts centre on ending something precious ( a life) can change into someone far far different. and then happiness comes!It does! IT DOES! Please, if you are still reading this, know 100% that what I put is true, is for you, Good things are coming, make sure you are around to …
Copyright (c) 2010 Karin Marcus
August is the month when many people take vacations. It is a time to leave our familiar surroundings and immerse ourselves in a different landscape. It is an opportunity to become unplugged from computers, cell phone, televisions, newspapers, and all the outer noises that prevent us from experiencing life in the moment. It is surprising what we can learn when we take the time to stop, look, and listen.
Our two daughters are in their twenties, and for the first time in over four years we recently managed to get away as a family. We went to Cape Cod, an area where I grew up vacationing every summer and after my parents retired there, passed the tradition down to my family. So while in many ways this was a trip down memory lane, it had a different twist this time. In recent years, I have learned the importance of personal retreating, and for the first time on a family trip I managed to include some quality, solitary time as well.
During the stolen moments of quiet walks, journaling, and reflection, I noticed that in addition to my husband and daughters, I had another companion on this journey. The first time I saw it, we were just leaving for our long drive, and I looked up to see a red-tailed hawk circling high above our home. A happy feeling washed over me and I saw this as a good omen for what was to come. The second time it appeared, I had just returned from an early morning walk on the beach my first morning on the Cape. I was sitting on the deck overlooking the bay, contently writing in my journal. Again I looked up to see a red-tail circling, this time very low right above me. “Hmmm,” I thought, “It’s welcoming me here. That’s very auspicious. When I get home I’ll have to look up the hawk totem.”
Then around the fifth day, I went for a walk at the Wellfleet Audubon Conservancy. No sooner had I entered the trail than I nearly had a head on collision with another red-tailed hawk. It came darting out of the woods chased by an angry little bird. About three feet from my face, it banked hard to the right and landed on a dead branch six feet away. We had a serious eye to eye exchange, until the smaller birds again chased it away.
Okay I get it; this bird is trying to tell me something. It’s been making its presence known to me, coming closer and closer until it’s practically in my face commanding my attention. I have a notebook of animal totems that I have compiled from various websites. So when I got home I read that the hawk is a messenger which appears in our life when we need to pay attention. I read, “When the hawk flies into our life, we will be asked to evaluate who we have become and rip out the threads of our self-created illusions.” That did hit me right in the face. It prompted some serious journaling on two very big questions: Who have I really become? And how does that differ from the illusions I have about myself?
This deep reflection inspired by the hawk was both humbling and empowering. It reminded me of another question I had recently read in Angeles Arrien’s book, The Second Half of Life: “Can I be aware of my faults while remaining high in self esteem?” Authenticity after all begins with being honest with ourselves; only then can we truly embrace our unfolding.
On this vacation, I returned to my roots, surrounded by my family, and felt deep gratitude for where I have come from and for those who love me. This splendid messenger from above made me stop in my tracks, acknowledge where I am, and consciously choose my future path of becoming. What a gift!
Karin Marcus, Professional Certified Life Coach / Retreat Leader “Let the beauty of what you love, be what you do” Rumi Karin@Steppingoutcoaching.com 610-667-5247 http://www.SteppingOutCoaching.com
1) The #1 mental gear-shift that can almost instantly improve your outlook on most everything and make you appear more confident to everyone involves creating a brand new mental Confidence Frame for yourself… and then plastering it all over your reality!
What am I talking about? A confidence frame is a highly personalized LENS through which you view the world. It’s a mental filter — a “coloring” that determines your perception OF (and reaction TO) what’s going on in your presence. Your confidence frame is more than just an academic exercise however, it tends to constrain what is or isn’t viewed as possible for you to achieve by setting limits beyond which you’ve convinced yourself that you cannot venture. Your confidence frame operates by overlaying a veneer of assumptions across whatever it is that you’re witnessing — and it’s those personal limitations that determine the sorts of “safe” interactions that you can engage in with any particular situation or person.
You can think of this as the invisible boundaries defined by your fear.
Here’s how it works: two people standing side by side viewing the same reality will apply entirely different biases (assumptions) to what they’re seeing, and thus create completely different (even totally OPPOSITE) interpretations of that situation. For instance, I see a girl standing there and I think that it’s possible for me to walk up to her and get a conversation going, and you think that this isn’t possible for YOU to do. Neither one of us is actually right or wrong in a strict sense — and our “overlay of assumptions” may have little to do with our actual chances of making this happen anyway, since it cannot take into account the one big ‘unknown’… if she would even be remotely interested in either one of us!
What it DOES do however is position us to either take or withhold a particular sort of action based upon our applied bias to this neutral observation of a girl who’s just ‘standing over there’. This GO / NO-GO decision point (and you live through several of these each day) has the potential to change the trajectory of your life to some major or minor degree — depending upon what you actually decide do… make a move, or simply allow the moment to pass.
The built-up weight of these kinds of collective choices, in retrospect, are what determines where you are in your life right now — which is essentially a patchwork of all these decision points both big and small that you have made along the way. Sure, some of the reality of your world may’ve been imposed upon you by the actions of others or by circumstances beyond your control, but a lot of it wasn’t. It is mostly our own choice to be where we are today (even if the main “chooser” was our fear). People with a social anxiety phobia for instance have applied a strong negative bias to most every aspect of their reality, which thus colors their world through a prism of abject fear. You should strive to stay out of this deadly trap of fear-based decision-making and begin coloring YOUR world through the lens of limitless possibility.
2) Get all the people who “know” you as being sad, depressed or lonely OUT of your life. I’m serious. Do whatever it takes (short of anything violent) to diminish the supporting effect they are having on the psychic MONSTERS that you are trying to flush out of your skull!
The people around you can often feel threatened by any sudden change in your attitude or physical state — especially if those changes are life-enabling for you. Such personal changes threaten to have you moving “out in front of them” in terms of where they imagine you to belong in their own personal pecking order (which is usually somewhere beneath you, of course). I’m talking about work, school, and especially within your own family structure. You need to begin casting a more critical eye upon these individuals and begin grading them for their usefulness to you. Don’t assume that these people have your best intentions at heart, they often do not.
In my books I talk extensively about male status and becoming the “high status male” in order to begin attracting the kind of high quality women that you desire into your world. People who can support you rather than drag you down. Well, you cannot feel that you are high status in any sense of the word if you are constantly being put down by the people that surround you. These individuals act as physical manifestations of the poisonous thinking that’s going on inside your head. They re-enforce your circular rotten thinking, and they need to go!
3) Dump good old “schmootie” or “titso” forever. Or whatever other sort of cutesy, put-downish nickname that others may’ve stamped you with over the years. Think about some of the more powerful and respected people that you know of. Do they get these sorts of stupid nicknames hung on them? Do people dare call them by it to their face… or are they afraid of the consequences? Or maybe just too respectful? Again, as noted in confidence booster #2, this sort of thing represents all the external inertia present in your world which works against your making any sort of positive, uplifting changes in your life. This is entirely toxic to the free and full expression of your existence. Get rid of it! You have 2 choices here: face these people down or flee them. Either method will work — although the first has the added benefit of improving your self-esteem enormously.
I realize that the number of people we could be talking about or the pervasiveness of their low regard for you may make this seem like an impossible task, as you could be vastly outnumbered by these agents of psychic doom. Regardless, you must revolt against their endless tyranny and seek your own mental freedom!
4) Taking a major mulligan (a “do over”) on your life can be thought of as your next really big confidence booster… in the sense that you will ultimately walk away from such a fearful experience a VASTLY stronger person. Especially if you’re in the 20 to 40 age range reading this right now, you will be thanking your lucky stars that you took up the challenge of personal self-change when you did because it only gets tougher as you get older and more set in your ways and attitudes.
I’m talking about seeking out a completely new circle of friends where you can finally get some emotional support. This may mean having to discover entirely new social circles, changing schools, your place of employment, a spouse… or maybe even the radical decision to pack your bags and leave town. It all depends on just how much importance you are willing to give this crazy idea that having some RESPECT from others (and also from somewhere deep inside your own head) is worth more than the safety and security of holding onto your current crummy life situation.
It means looking the risk of building a new life for yourself straight in the eye… and refusing to blink!
5) Know and understand the critical importance of long-term MOTIVATION when mounting any sort of major challenge to your well-established routines and habits — and especially when trying to break out of calcified old thinking ruts. Your brain has made subconscious assumptions about the limits of possibility for you. It has spent a lifetime subtly directing your thoughts and behaviors in ways that create a supporting reality… thus “proving” everything it believes about you to be “true”.
These profound if poisonous self-created assumptions can get themselves buried in very deep — and can therefore take a very powerful commitment of motivation to reverse. Attempting to just casually sweep these rooted-in ideas aside in the service of more positive ones will likely be regarded as a THREAT to the very existence of the subconscious itself… and so will be viciously resisted at every turn. This is why it can be so difficult to remain motivated to stay at positive personal change until it finally begins to take hold, but this is the task that you must now shoulder. Otherwise, this is a process that runs almost hypnotically and unconsciously unless you deliberately force it to STOP.
Finally, whether it’s something physical like losing weight or quitting smoking, or something completely psychological like changing your fundamental belief system, you’ll find that Courage and Self-Awareness are your best friends for remaining in the fight long enough to achieve the kind of boost in confidence that you are seeking. Just stay true to yourself — and stay in the fight no matter what sort of blowback you encounter. Remember that no one can prevent you from having anything that you truly desire in life. Except you.
Mike Pilinski is the author of 2 classic books in the men’s dating market… his highly-acclaimed original, “Without Embarrassment” and his follow-up: “She’s Yours For The Taking”. Read more about them here:
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